how to win the argument everytime!

so i have had much experience in the arguing department as of late. coming from a family of strong willed(or stubborn) women, i learned some sure fire tips to help when it comes down to winning arguments.(even though i must admit, in the heat of battle, these rules sometimes are forgotten)....

• no matter how angry you get, never raise your voice. speaking in a calm tone throws people off guard. supposedly when people are angry they yell, but if you are speaking in a calm tone with a hint of nonchalance it puts the other person on the defense.

• no matter how jealous you may be, do not take what you may read to heart.overreacting over social networks blurbs will get you nowhere fast. the key to it all is in keeping the illusion of cool and nonchalance. if you're coming off as the crazy psycho stalker that checks their lovers twitter, facebook, bbm,im's, emails, etc. you're not coming off too nonchalant ...**the example below is what not to do**
  
  

• never fight over social networks with your significant other. and this is for many reasons, one it allows nosy people into your world, two no matter who's right or wrong you both look like idiots for airing your dirty laundry so publicly, three its just whack..you're not in seventh grade..stop acting like it!
  

• silence is the best weapon. when your lover is in the middle of a relationship rant, instead of cursing them out, hold your tongue. nothing pisses an angry argumentative person off more than someone who is not willing to argue back. letting them talk, holler, and shout until they realize, "hey, wait why am i fighting by my damn self?!?"

• no low blows!!!why?? because that's childish, hitting below the belt is basically a bitch move. even if the other person is shooting heavy fire your way, act as if everything is great..because after enough acting, you just might realize you are having a better time..and once again it pisses your partner off.

• if it ain't directly directed at me i don't respect it! no sneak dissing, either come out and say what you mean or just shut the hell up. bitches(that can be penis or vagina) do that mess, its not a good look, for anyone. subliminal messaging is cool for ads, not real life.
  

i swear these are the simplest rules to live by when in battle, they allow the upper hand in the situation and they give you a perfect view of...

• what you're fight about?

• what brought the fight on?

• if the fight is worth having?

YUP!

the weird shit i youtube

am i the only person that gets bored and starts to randomly look for things on youtube? well today i was sitting in the living room bored and started looking for things under the label of "snake vs....". so i started watching the video before reading the description and really thought that the snake had this fight sewed up...apparently prehistoric looking bugs aren't something one should really try and tangle with

love me sexy

...i'm talking rainforest sweaty....

in case you were wondering....

just a bit of what i'm listening to

... blog surfing earlier, i saw tiffany evans doing "i have nothing" by whitney houston. now no disrespect to her because she really did the song justice, i'm still riding with whit! so after watching tiffany i started looking for my mom's old cassettes tapes(yup that old) and turned off the tv and started singing out loud in whitney and my morning coffee. here are two of my all time favorites by ms houston...

" i have nothing "

"all the man i need"

Make My Burden Lighter

"Hot Dogs & Hamburgers(2008)"--Todd James

V MAG LOVES THEM SOME THICK CHICKS

all hail to the thick chick, the brickhouse. women come in all shapes and sizes, but i love me a thick chick. coming from a family full of curvy (full figured included), i, of course have real love for thick chicks.

"we like girls who ain't on tv cause they got more ass than the models"--kanye, the goodlife

Rumor Has It - Young Jeezy Featuring Pharrell

heard this in huntsville, i honestly forgot how dope it was

huntsville wrap up

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madonna featuring pharrell - give it to me

gap ad parody

me and my sister were sitting at the dining room table youtube surfing and came across this video...talk to the moose!!!

janelle does GAP

performing winter wonderland

one of the best shows ever

one day i was chilling with my homie and was rummaging thru the house's dvd collection and came across a show called "WEEDS". naturally my curiosity had me wondering what the show was about so after burrowing it, i realized i love this show. i even got my mom and sister watching the show. we all the finished the first season and now i'm up watching the second season. this show is on my must watch list with "sex and the city". if you've never seen it you should take some time out of your schedule and put netflix to use and catch up on the show. i'm not sure if the show is still airing but it comes on showtime...

thorns....

shoe sex : ulona

i haven't seen a pair of heels that made me blush and check my panties in a very long time and then i stumbled across the Christian Louboutin Ulona. all i can say is that these shoes have to be in my closet by july 17, 2010.

music monday....darling nikki

last night i was sitting at home eating blue bunny ice cream when purple rain came on. i live for prince, he is the sexiest little yellow man walking this earth. ooww, anyway my favorite scene of the movie is when he gets on stage and performs this song. one of the greatest possible foreplay songs ever.

kelis freak me slow

next year i'll take socks ...

yesterday was christmas(que applause). anyway every year my family gathers at my grandparents house to exchange gifts and have christmas dinner. over the years i have gotten some pretty ummm weird gifts from my family but i usually smile and say thank you and keep it moving.

my family is coming around to understanding that its just best to give the grandchildren gift cards, checks, or cash(even my grandparents gave me a gift card...big ups to the og's for that one), but my mom's youngest sister seems to have missed that memo. so when i was like ten, for some random reason i wanted a bed canopy. my parents told me no and i got over it and almost forgot about wanting one until yesterday. my aunt handed me my brightly wrapped gift and waited for me to rip through the paper. as i opened it, i'm sure i had a "what the hell" expression written all over my face....i got a bed canopy. i know its the thought that counts, but seriously this might get regifted and regifted soon. next year i'd much rather socks....

forever young - jay z feat mr hudson

Merry Christmas

from me to you...merry christmas. hopefully you've been good all year and santa won't pass your house. lol, but seriously i love christmas and its never really been about the gifts for me. i love waking up on christmas and cooking in the kitchen with my mom and sister. i probably should have asked santa for something this year but i pass on the opportunity...i just want a decent/good day at home with my lovies